What is more important in life?

Is it the pursuit of making more money or is it the pursuit of making more memories?

What are you making money for? I was recently talking to a business owner who decided to take the leap and be an entrepreneur.  It is obviously no easy feat to go out to work for yourself.  It requires a lot of money and a lot of time so you really need to be sure that this is what you want to do.  You also want to make sure that the sacrifices you are making will be worth it.  He is really doing a great job at it too.  Having walked some of this journey with him initially his motivation was to have more time? But I asked is that why you should start a business.  At our recent catch up he said it was to make more money.  How much is enough money? What do you want the money for?  It was this conversation that started me thinking about what is my purpose is it about making more money or is it about making more memories.

Where are you Spending Time?

This is something I think about how should I spend my time and what really brings me joy.  My COVID experience has made this something I think about a lot more.

When you understand the things that bring you joy it is easier to allow life to pull you in certain directions.  It is easier to be open to seeing the serendipitous moments too.  I found myself being conscious about finding those moments you need to spend a little more time enjoying.

For me, it is small things that are often powerful;

• An extra 5 minutes in bed in the morning enjoying an embrace from my husband.  It is the sense of safety, relaxation and pure love.  If I didn’t stop at that moment to take that in, to breathe in deeply I would miss it.  I realise how lucky I am, and I try to take time to be grateful for life’s greatest joys and without a sense of gratitude I could miss it.  I could easily get out of bed and get right in the busyness of the day.

• The moment when I look out my window and know I have 3 incredible horses in my backyard.  This was a childhood dream that I didn’t think was possible.  When I go out in the paddock or look out my window it is about taking a mental picture and being present.

• I love the mornings when my husband makes me poached eggs on toast.  They are the most incredible poached eggs and no one else can make them as well.  It is because every bit of them are done with love.  The eggs come freshly laid by my free-range chooks and my husband knows how to poach the perfect egg.  It is my favourite weekend breakfast along with the great coffee.  I look forward to these breakfasts and I simply just savour the simplicity and perfection of the meal.

• It is when my horse will master a new skill or something we have worked on together seems to come together finally.  The time and hours put in it is those moments that provide me with elation.

• Moments with my kids when there is laughter and when there is something new that they have mastered too.  I have loved watching them grow into amazing humans.

The Joy of Giving

If you have ever had the opportunity to give someone something or do something that has really helped them, changed their day, or their life, you understand how powerful that is for you.  There is something incredibly powerful in those moments where you can feel someones gratitude for making their life a little bit better.  I love those memories these are ones I put on replay when I need to feel good as they always make me smile.  I really love finding the perfect gift for someone.

Who do you want to be with?

Think about it: who would you rather spend your time with? Someone who is making money and spending all their free time doing so? Or someone who is making memories doing fun things with friends and family? Why do I ask this? Because in my experience, the people who are truly successful (and happy) have a balance between work and play. They don’t let work consume their whole lives. There are other things that matter to them besides making money. That’s not to say making more money can make you a lot happier than not having any money.  I think that financial freedom is very powerful and being able to live a comfortable lifestyle certainly makes me a lot happier than being homeless.

Making More Money

I came from a working-class background.  I know what it is like not to have money.  I spent many years of my life making more money working harder than anyone else so that my children wouldn’t know what it is like to go without.  I sacrificed a lot along the way and I still wonder whether it has been worth it all.  I spent my time making more money it didn’t bring me the happiness I thought I would.  I wanted to drive the fancy car, own my house and have fancy shoes.  I guess what I have learned through this process is more things don’t make you happy.  I have filled my life with having things and now I understand that people and places are what we remember on our deathbed, not the fancy things.  It certainly won’t be my expensive coffee making coming to my bedside when I am sick and need someone. 

Deathbed Moments

This is a profound question that was given to me by a young man who had too much life experience for someone his age.  He had such a great time at Leading Together that he described it as a “deathbed memory”.  I have started using this statement as my measuring stick and thinking is this a “deathbed memory” and I have started to realise it is the small things that are the most important.   Having lost too many precious people too young you realise that things you miss the most are the simple things, not the grand gesture moments.

When you think about those precious life moments that you reflect on in your final hours what do you think that are they going to be?  Making more money or making more memories.